There I was living the life, watching the Peanuts movie with my son, chasing him around as he learned to walk, keeping the house clean, getting a decent amount of sleep, living in yoga pants… So why did I start working from home and put my son in daycare when I basically had it made? Why did I start freelancing? Why start a blog? I’ll tell you why and hopefully inspire you to do the same.
Our Bank Account Was Depressing
First of all, I didn’t have it made. Sitting around the house was pretty much (and kind of still is) all we could do. Why? Literally all of our income went toward bills. Whether it be payments on loans, the car, groceries, or gas, our paycheck (by “our” I mean my husband’s) would be completely gone by the next payday. That doesn’t sound like “living the life” to me. I picture a life full of adventure and unique experiences with the people I love. The life I envision for myself and family does not include barely scraping by every month. Not to mention, I have some dreams that require funding and a freelancing as a writer seemed to be a step in the right direction.
Dreaming for the Future
Dreams? Yes, you know, those big ideas you get when you’re wide awake watching your baby grow up, wishing you could provide an amazing life for them? You know, those things adults often have but sadly almost never act upon? Well, I don’t want to give up on mine or just sit around thinking about them because I want so much more for my babies and my husband and even my parents.
Dreams can be a little selfish too, and that’s okay. Mine are. I’ll be the first to admit, I want nice things. We currently have a saggy brown couch in our living room that I’m pretty sure is broken in a few places, but it only cost us $2.50 from Goodwill and we need something to sit on. Let’s be real for a minute. Yes, the saggy brown couch serves its purpose but there is nothing wrong with not wanting a saggy brown couch in your life. In fact, if your life feels like a saggy brown couch, please, make some changes and go get the Restoration Hardware couch kind of life you deserve! I know you can because I know I can. I digress.
Changing My Path
I will also admit to wanting some recognition. My life hasn’t exactly gone as I had planned it in high school (shocking amiright?). I often feel like I don’t have anything to show for the years I have lived in the “real” world and sometimes it really bums me out. It would be nice to have something to talk about at dinner when my dad is visiting and talking about his recent accomplishments. It would be nice to be a big part of why our family’s financial status has drastically changed. I think about the future a lot and I wonder how I might look back on this present moment in my life. Looking back, I want to be able to thank myself for hustling. I want my kids, when they are old enough, to understand and really appreciate the life they are able to live because their parents hustled.
I’ve always believed that I was going to start and grow my own business. In the past few years I have really been inspired by the fashion world and I have been dying to start a personal style blog. It’s just not the right time yet and I believe it requires a lot of startup cash. At least the blog I envision does. I also would like to finish up my education at the Art Institutes with no debt. So, that’s kind of the beginning of my dream and I can’t do anything about it when there is no room in the budget.
I kind of already touched on this but generating an income and having goals, gives me a sense of purpose. I love challenging myself and I don’t think, because I am a mom, I should deprive myself of taking on a big goal. It’s difficult balancing being a mom and what that should look like with personal goals. I have learned over time, however, that in order for me personally, to be the best mom, I need to chase my own dreams and have my own agenda. Guess you could say it makes me feel validated when I contribute to the household. Don’t get me wrong, I admire women who can spend every waking minute with their children and I love teaching my son and watching him learn but I’m more than a mom and I need an outlet for the other parts of me.
If there are any stay-at-home moms, wives, or just ambitious women out there reading this, I hope you’re encouraged to act on those dreams that keep making their way back into your thoughts. If freelancing is one of those dreams, the first step is the scariest. I promise, it gets easier. Look how much I made in my first month of taking this freelancing business seriously! Seriously ladies, change the things about your life you don’t like. You’d be surprised how much of your happiness is in your control.
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